WHO I AM ~ VANICE

I am a survivor of an emotionally abusive relationship.

Was married to an alcoholic for 21 years. Was often told that I was fat and ugly and no other man would ever want me and I should appreciate I was saved by him. I lost my parent to cancer and lost my own will to live. I attempted suicide and thankfully was not successful. I went from a fit personal trainer to depression and piled on 20kg.

I managed to lose it over 2 years & turning 50, inspired me to try a professional photo shoot to celebrate. Now I am more confident & happier with life. I appreciate time with my children and grandchildren. During my photo shoot I felt amazing!! I am so glad I made the decision to do this and will be something I will be proud of for the rest of my life.

People need to be more aware that depression is real and so hard to overcome. Never tell someone to, 'just get over it'! Be supportive, a cuddle and some open ears means so much. Don't think you are expected to fix the problem, just listen and understand with an open heart and mind.

To those on their own mental and physical health journey; keep trying, not every day is going to be a good day and just accept the bad days as well. Never feel guilty for having bad days, as Ekart Tole once said, 'this too will soon pass'. Any little achievement needs to be recognised & celebrated. You got this!! For me knowing what I have overcome and achieved is in itself inspiring. I know now that tomorrow will be a different day. I’m proud that I have survived and am still going!