Give this gift to yourself

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Mother of Ashlee and Aria; became NanMa to Lara on June 21. We are all based in Whangarei although Aria spends lots of time in Auckland at University.

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I have had the most amazing travel adventures. I have been fortunate to have lived in many countries including Australia, England, Scotland, Spain, Taiwan, Malaysia & Thailand. In between trips returning to Whangarei and finally settling here long term in 2001 back to my roots where my heart and soul belong.

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When asked to think of a significant moment in my life, I immediately found myself returning to the age of 17 when I was told my Mum had terminal cancer, this news broke my heart, she was my world and the loss was enormous; part of myself was soon gone forever. I found myself mentally alone for many years; support systems were minimal; unbeknown to me my life choices were significantly impacted. My approach to life’s hurdles moving forward were tough and filled with anger, I certainly did not make life easy on myself!

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It took many, many years to finally realise that I am OK, I’m a good person, I have lots to give, I am valued. During this time I met a friend; she helped me gain the self-confidence I had lost while pushing through life in fight or flight, even though I was surrounded by loved ones, my internal battle was not understood. With this friend's support I made some huge life choices and positive changes!

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At age 42 I pursued a Nursing Degree; my greatest academic achievement. I became a Registered Nurse in 2016 and since then I have nursed in General Practice. This role gives me so much fulfillment, helping, caring and making a difference in people’s lives on a daily basis. My passion is towards women’s health, sexual health and diabetes along with the wellbeing of our elderly and tamariki.

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Becoming a Grandmother is a significant celebration for me; having not had a Grandmother myself and my daughters missed out on my Mother devoting love to them. I decided to celebrate this milestone with legacy photos. My girls are my world, 3 generations in one photo; I am so very lucky!

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From age 17 to who I am now; I have the strength to move mountains for myself and my loved ones. I am content with my life as a Mother, Grandmother, Partner, Friend and Nurse.

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I would not hesitate to step up and help anyone unfortunate enough to be challenged by the loss of their mother at a young vulnerable age; this resonates strongly in my being, this is who I am!

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The biggest lesson I have learnt in life is taking time out for self-care, give this gift to yourself and you can then give your all to others